It may be a very clear red flag that divorce is on the horizon if you and your spouse are always arguing. Maybe you feel like they always turn every disagreement into a major argument. You suspect that the reason is just that the two of you are drifting apart or that there are deeper relational issues, leading to resentment and conflict between the two of you.
But say that, one day, these arguments stop. Does this mean that your marriage is getting stronger and that divorce is less likely, or could it also be a red flag in its own way?
Your spouse may have checked out
The reality is that this can also indicate that divorce is coming. If your spouse felt like they were going to be married to you indefinitely, then it may have been important to them to “win” some of those arguments. But if they have now checked out of the relationship and they know they are eventually going to ask for a divorce, they may no longer care if they “win” or “lose.”
In fact, some couples will start actively avoiding having arguments that they’ve had before. It feels exhausting to go over all of the same points again and again. But this doesn’t mean that the argument itself has been resolved. It just means that the couple has not been able to find any sort of compromise or agreement, and they still disagree about the initial issue.
Your rights during divorce
It’s important to consider if a divorce is coming because you need to think about your rights, such as your right to marital property or your right to parenting time with your children. As you and your spouse get closer to the official divorce process, it’s helpful to look at all of your legal options.